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So they want to have unprotected sex…
Don’t you trust me? Yep, I trust you not to put us at risk for infection. I do trust you, but either of us could be infected and not know about it. It would be much easier for me to relax and enjoy myself if I didn't have to think about HIV or other STDs. I don’t feel as close to you with that barrier between us. Well, if it's not there, you’re either not getting any closer. This latex shows your respect and concern for our health. That means a whole lot more to me than a millimetre of rubber. Nobody I've slept with had HIV / AIDS. With that attitude, I wouldn't have told you if I had it either. You can't tell if someone's got HIV (the virus that causes AIDS) unless they've had a test and told you. People live with HIV for many years with no symptoms at all. One third of people living with HIV don't even know they're infected. You were carrying a condom with you? You were planning to seduce me! You’re right! Just call me safety boy (or safety girl) … always ready for action. I always carry one with me, just in case, because you never know what could happen. Condoms are unnatural, and a total turnoff. This tan / my hair removal / porn / cologne / makeup / alcohol / poppers / her boobs … they’re all fake too, and I don’t hear you complaining. Hey, an infection isn’t so great either. Besides, without using condoms, we could always rub each other down, or I'm willing to deal with unprotected oral sex (low risk for HIV) as long as you don't cum in my mouth. Which makes your pulse race more? I can’t feel a thing when I wear
a condom. Move over here, sexy, and I’ll make sure you feel something. Even if the latex slows you down, you've still got plenty of sensation. We'll even drizzle a little lubricant inside the condom to make it more sensitive, just for you. C'mon, I know I’m clean. I haven’t had sex with anyone for months. You can’t know that you're HIV free unless you’ve had been tested at a clinic. As far as I know, I am too. I want to use condoms and lube anyway, at least until we can both get our three month testing results and we know for sure. Even then, we'll have to talk about the possibility of outside relationships -- are they not allowed? only with protection? under what circumstances? what happens if one of us slips up? Condoms are uncomfortable and tight. They blow up to the size of my head. You’re not that big. There are so many different styles and brands of condoms. Thin, ribbed, flavoured, extra large, sensation tipped, the list just goes on, and we haven't even gotten to the lubricant! Let’s experiment until we find our favourites. If we put a drop of the slippery stuff inside, you'll feel much better. That’s insulting! Do you think I’m a diseased dirtbag? Nope, that's not what I meant. But do you know how common STDs are? I just don't want to take any chances. That's not what I said or implied. These viruses don’t care how many lovers you’ve had. They just want a way inside your body. I don't have unprotected sex so I won't have to deal with them. Condoms kill the spontaneity. So does this argument. I don't do penetration without a condom and lube, end of discussion. It doesn’t have to be that way. I've got a condom right here in my pocket (nightstand drawer, fishbowl on the shelf, bin by the bar) and the lube comes in these handy individual use packages. We're ready to go! I’ll lose my hard on by the time I stop and put it on. I’ll help you put it on – that’ll help you keep it. Check it out, this one's red with studs. You'll look so sexy all wrapped up in it. Smelling that latex makes me twitch with anticipation. I got tested last year and it came back negative. That doesn't take into account what's happened since then. I love you! Would I make you sick? Exactly. If you love me, we’ll use a condom to make sure we don’t. Not intentionally, but many people don’t know they’re infected. That’s why this is best for us right now. It’s no fun when I wear one of those! Honey, if you can't find ways to make it fun, you’re more boring than I thought you were. Sure, the sensation's different, but it just takes some getting used to. Why don’t we try more lubricant, or a different brand? Or come over here and I'll use my mouth to unroll it. Sound good, big boy? Just this once! Once is all it takes. The risk just isn't worth it to me. I’ll pull out before I cum. If you wear the condom, you can just focus on enjoying your orgasm. Besides, this way you'll last longer. When you get hard, pre-cum lubricates the tip of your penis. This has sperm and can contain HIV, so withdrawal won't protect us. We’ve been together for 6 months.
Thanks for reminding me, now our HIV tests will be 100% accurate. Once we get our results, we can talk about what we would like to do. Even though 6 months seems like a long time, someone can have no symptoms of HIV for many years. Either one of us could have been infected before we got together and still not know. I’m a virgin. I’m not. This way we’ll both be protected. I don’t have a condom with me. I do. Oral sex would be delicious... I won’t have sex with you if you're going to use a condom. Fine, there are plenty of men who will. Well, why don't we have sex some way that's safe without it -- go down on me, get your hands involved, use your imagination! Adapted from Education / prevention workshop
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